Category: Teen Topics
It's weird. Eversince I've turned seventeen, I've become this very independent, opinionated person. I have no trouble telling people what I think. Is that normal?
Hi,
Smile, considering i do about the same thing most times (although i am very opinionated anyways), i guess it is. maybe its a "teenage thing" as much as i hate to say that...
In Him,
Dixie
Yes, it is indeed normal for someone to do that.
Troy
Why are you so keen to know if this or that is normal after all what is "normal" hmm?
I told you. I'm just weird.
Change is simply what it is, nothing more. We all change. The part we struggle with is adjusting to it. We not only notice changes with in our selfs, but in others as well, such as your friends and family. It is hard to offer one comfort if you feel like you are alone. Just wait it out. For what is darkness without light?
Hey, having your own opinions on things and having your independent values and stuff is great. Just remember that you might be wrong and try to consider other people's opinions too and find a happy medium. I've found that listening to people and working with them, may be trying to win them over to your point of view works so much better than clashing with them or arguing, if you can avoid it, then you shouldn't argue, listen, try to understand as much as you can why the person feels like the/she does, see if you can accomoadate or if their arguments are good enough so your opinion can be changed (good things about opinions is they can change, bad thing is that they can be wrong sometimes) but if you don't feel like it was wrong, then stick to it. :) It's a delicate balance, just try to see both sides of issues or at least understand those who disagree and you will do good. :) Be determined but not demanding, know what you want and what you can nigotiate on, don't expect everything to be exactly the way you think you want it, you may find things that you thought you wanted are not what you want. :) E.g. I've been in bands for a long time and I often have very fixed ideas about what my songs are supposed to sound like, my friends in the band pick it up and start playing and it sounds awful because it's so different from how I imagined it but after some listens and working with them instead of just telling them to play things a certain way sometimes the song takes on a new life and sounds so much better, .. so give it a chance girl, best of luck to ya.
cheers
-B
Hehehehee, well, it sounds perfectly healthy and normal to me, to become more independent and opinionated. But then, I'm only fourteen. Caitlin
Well, maybe I'm not so nuts after all.
Don't worry, IC. I'm sixteen, and just the same. I find that opinions vary on environment. And, most especially relationships. My friends help me develop my own opinions, and, be them right or wrong, they're there. The life I lead exposes me to many different circumstances, and those, too, aid in my development as a person. Is it normal to be all independent and opinionated? I say, sure!! Is it a teenaged thing? My personal opinion is that it's more a thing that happens throughout our lives. It's normal, benificial and natural. And maybe it starts most prevalently (or is most integral) in our teenaged years.
Good luck, my fellow teenaged chickk.
Well said, HLH! You are so gifted with words, my thoughts exactly ... hehehee! Take care all.
Thanks guys.
NO problem IC that's what friends are for. Hehehe xoxxox.
Well, if you look at it this way, change is a gift. I mean, I really can't stand change around me, but I do like personal change. It always makes me feel a sense of pride. You don't want to be a seventeen-year-old who thinks like she did when she was thirteen. Good question.
it's perfectly normal for you to be opinionated, you just have to make sure you think before you speak.
When I came to my school where i am now, I was afraid of talking to people on the street and saying what I think and I was not at all self-confident. These years in my school, but also the six weeks in England, made me very self-confident and now I can say what i think without being ashamed or anything. I have to say I'm pround of the changes I've made.
Wonderful. That's awesome!
Yeah, but I also gained a lot of weight which I have to lose now, lol. I had to go through hard times, I didn't have many friends, but it got much better.
I am totally changing again. Earlier I would nearly thought of running away from my school because I found it so horrible, but now I think: Stay strong, only one more year to go.
I think some change is good. But I still think there are some things I need to change. I need to learn how to talk to people about my feelings enstead of keeping it all in side. I shouldn't let that stuf weigh me down, but I never get the courage to tell some one until they keep asking me and asking me. I know you think that's weird.
I should learn to keep my cool and be less shy.
that's me. i'm shy too but proud of how i am
Lol! I am the oposite. I am not shy. I am the leader sorta of person. I usually don't get along with people like myself. We end up having a fight. I get a long great with followers. Lol! My friends are like that. It's nice. I try to aim for the best of all of us. It's a big compremise, and I am all about stuff like it. People don't realize though.